If you’re a mom and someone asks you "What’s your greatest joy in life?", you’ll probably say your kids. And if someone asks you "What’s your greatest stressor?", you’ll probably say…your kids.
All moms worry about their kids’, well, everything. From bumps and bruises to besties and bullies, we all wonder if our kids are okay if we’re raising them right, and if they’ll grow up to be happy, healthy adults. Moms who work outside the home have special challenges to deal with, usually feeling like they’re either neglecting their job or neglecting their kids. How to add home upkeep, a social life and self-care into the mix is a mystery for most modern mamas, who often put themselves last.
The truth is, as a busy mom, you’ll probably never feel like you’re hitting each area of your life — work, family, household, social, and self — at a perfect ten. But chances are, you can improve the balance you’ve got now.
- Be Here Now. When you get home, be at home. If you’re checking your work email at the dinner table, soon your kids will be on their phones, too, and the family dinner won’t really be a family dinner anymore. Got young children? Connect with them by getting on the floor and playing with them before dinner. Got older kids? Try the “high-low” conversation. Everyone goes around the table and says what their high and low of the day was. You’ll start to feel more relaxed and connected to your family than if half of your mind is on tomorrow’s presentation.
- Make Time for You. Easier said than done, for sure. But it’s kind of like what they tell you on the airplane: Put your own oxygen mask on before helping your children. When you prioritize yourself — even if it’s just one blissful hourlong bath a week, or a refreshing hike in the woods, or a quiet evening spent journaling — you fill up your cup. And that allows you to really be present when you show up at work or at home.
- Make it Fair. One of the reasons work-life balance is so hard for many moms who are coupled with men is the gender divide. These moms are working just like their husbands, but they’re still shouldering the brunt of the domestic chores and schedules. According to a recent study, working moms spend twice as much time doing housework and taking care of their children as working dads. How to get guys to pitch in more? Talk to him and tell him directly that you need help. Create a short to-do list for him of chores he actually likes. And perhaps most importantly, don’t try to control his process — let him do things his way.
- Eat Well. It’s a fact: Your body and your mind respond to the kind of food you eat. Fill your plate with fruits and vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats and proteins, and you may find you’re not feeling the need to reach for greasy chips or a big bowl of ice cream every night. Chances are your mood will lift, too. A recent study found that increasing your fruit and veggie intake from a sad zero servings per day to an impressive eight created the same boost in happiness as going from being unemployed to finding a job!
- Get Some Support. Taking a high-quality multivitamin is a quick and easy way to indulge in a little self-care. A multi can not only fill in the gaps in your diet, it can create tangible health benefits. Rainbow Light Vibrance Women’s Multivitamin plus Stress Support, for example, contains bioavailable B vitamins and magnesium to help you take everyday stress in stride; calcium, boron and vitamin D to strengthen your bones, diindolylmethane (DIM) to support estrogen metabolism; plus probiotics, prebiotics, and plant-sourced enzymes to help ease digestion and promote gut health.* Because when you’re calm, strong, balanced, and at ease, every day can be a happy Mother’s Day.
*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.